what time is it??

my boss invited us over to her condo at lakeside for some tennis + mahjong (i only turned up for the mahjong though, LOL) last saturday. and we saw this cool looking wall clock in her apartment!!

really funky sia.. lol

the office is a jungle~~

Wahahahaa me and oyc saw this interesting guy (read wolf) roaming around the raffles place mrt area during our lunch break. best thing is we dun even know what is he trying to advertise also. lol.

until in office when jolene showed me the name card of his colleague, the snake.. LOL

wahahahah they sell vitamins… interesting.

busy as an ant~~

hmm time for a little update here… wahahaha its starting to be a little busy now for me, cos of the popular december year end period for many many of our clients here. sianz. im literally job-hopping from one client to another. LOL! but then again i guess its much safer now to be involved in jobs, be it tough or slack, cos of the target utilisation ratio that all staff need to fulfill and it affects our year-end appraisal also lor.. hahaa

i think i should consider myself to be real lucky cos my jobs during the peak for the year is slightly less tough and demanding than some others which have real tough clients and crazy deadlines. really need good luck for my colleagues who are in them.

no wonder i’m always late for work~~

http://www.kisa.ca/personality/

interesting website for personality tests, which clearly explained why i am always late for work (follow the red words):

Your personality type is ENTP.

Extraverted   50%     Introverted   50%
Intuitive   73%     Sensing   27%
Thinking   55%     Feeling   45%
Perceiving   100% Judging (J) 0%

Extraverts’ energy is directed primarily outward, towards people and things outside of themselves. Introverts’ energy is primarily directed inward, towards their own thoughts, perceptions, and reactions. Therefore, Extraverts tend to be more naturally active, expressive, social, and interested in many things, whereas Introverts tend to be more reserved, private, cautious, and interested in fewer interactions, but with greater depth and focus.

Extraverts often:

• Have high energy
• Talk more than listen
• Think out loud
• Act, then think
• Like to be around people a lot
• Prefer a public role
• Can sometimes be easily distracted
• Prefer to do lots of things at once
• Are outgoing & enthusiastic

Sensors notice the facts, details, and realities of the world around them whereas Intuitives are more interested in connections and relationships between facts as well as the meaning, or possibilities of the information. Sensors tend to be practical and literal people, who trust past experience and often have good common sense. Intuitives tend to be imaginative, theoretical people who trust their hunches and pride themselves on their creativity.

Intuitives often:

• Focus on the big picture & possibilities
• Admire creative ideas
• Notice anything new or different
• Are inventive – see what could be
• Think about future implications
• Trust their gut instincts
• Prefer to learn new skills
• Like to figure things out for themselves
• Work in bursts of energy

Thinkers make decisions based primarily on objective and impersonal criteria–what makes the most sense and what is logical. Feelers make decisions based primarily on their personal values and how they feel about the choices.

Thinkers often:

• Make decisions objectively
• Appear cool and reserved
• Are most convinced by rational arguments
• Are honest and direct
• Value honesty and fairness
• Take few things personally
• Tend to see flaws
• Are motivated by achievement
• Argue or debate issues for fun

Judgers prefer a structured, ordered, and fairly predictable environment, where they can make decisions and have things settled. Perceivers prefer to experience as much of the world as possible, so they like to keep their options open and are most comfortable adapting. So, Judgers tend to be organized and productive while Perceivers tend to be flexible, curious, and nonconforming.

Perceivers often:

• May have difficulty making decisions
• Are playful & unconventional
• Are less aware of time & run late
• Prefer to start projects
• Play first, work later
• Want to keep their options open
• Question the need for many rules
• Like to keep plans flexible
• Want the freedom to be spontaneous

yes, i am a 100% perceiver… wahahahaha

no more purple dinosaur~~

wahahahaha, i got these funny lyrics from my cousin’s msn pm…

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i hate u, u hate me…

lets go out and kill barney,

with a shotgun bang bang barney on the floor,

no more purple dinosaur.

你 不是真正的快樂

你 不是真正的快樂

by: MAYDAY

人 群中 哭著 你只想變成透明的顏色

你再也不會夢 或痛 或心動了

你已經決定了 你已經決定了

你 靜靜 忍著 緊緊把昨天在拳心握著

而回憶越是甜 就是 越傷人了

越是在 手心留下 密密麻麻 深深淺淺 的刀割

你不是真正的快樂 你的笑只是你穿的保護色

你決定不恨了 也決定不愛了

把你的靈魂關在永遠鎖上的軀殼

這 世界 笑了 於是妳合群的一起笑了

當生存是規則 不是 你的選擇

於是妳 含著眼淚 飄飄盪盪 跌跌撞撞 的走著

你不是真正的快樂 你的笑只是你穿的保護色

你決定不恨了 也決定不愛了

把你的靈魂關在永遠鎖上的軀殼

你不是真正的快樂 你的傷從不肯完全的癒合

我站在你左側 卻像隔著銀河

難道就真的抱著遺憾一直到老了 然後才後悔著

你值得真正的快樂 你應該脫下你穿的保護色

為什麼失去了 還要被懲罰呢

能不能就讓 悲傷全部 結束在此刻 重新開始活著

from mayday 7th [poetry of the day after]

building blocks of english/chinglish

wahahahaha~~ chanced upon this post while browsing mr miyagi’s blog… damn crappy la!! haha it’s talking about a set of bilingual wooden blocks which are supposed to teach young chinese kids english…

but apparently, something went wrong with the translation:

i mean, erm, what the hell is a darning needle? or bear cat? hahaha.. and do we even use ‘crustacea’ to call a ladybug? LOL lucky for the chicken and peacock, they got their names right…

and what the hell is a coler? or a wecker? and a GEE?? LOL amazing!!

i guess this was the ultimate… hahah destroy/extinguish the evidence!!! i think it “might” be useful when we need to shred papers… lol

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source: peer-see (do click on this!! LOL)

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years.

Surprisingly, as the total population of the world increases, the distance between people increases too.

Compared to people 20 years ago, we’ve significantly gained more things literally, but somehow I began to think whether the evolution of the human technology and scientific breakthroughs are really good for us? Our world has evolved so much, but have we really grown for the better?

Modern day technologies are indeed running our definition of our world, but are they to take over our meaning in life? Is making money really the modern definition of life? Yes it’s true that we eat to live, and we make money just to eat. That is simply called surviving. But is this our main aim in life? I guess we might get to choose what do we want to achieve during our days here, but maybe we should take a step back and wonder whether all these are deservingly taking up our time.

However and perhaps, i guess it’s not possible to change our way of life now, not completely I guess (cos Singapore’s inflation is 6% this year!! ouch!!)

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A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

– George Carlin

an auditee for life

a crazy email i received about a guy with an auditor as a wife… hahaha

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I have a professional woman as my wife; a CPA. She uses LIFO method while taking out the refrigerated food.

She thinks I am no good with numbers. Fine with me, for now she handles the budget of the house. Initially
she used to send me a bill at the month end, but when I told her that I am not her client but her husband,
she asks for the money in advance. The expenses had been rising steadily over the months, so one day I
snooped into the papers maintained in a current file. No wonder! She was charging mileage and overtime to
the house budget.

She is crazy, I tell her but she corrects me. No honey, I am the auditor. I fail to see the light.

Every scrap of the paper in our house is filed. She tells me as per some Ordinance she must keep a copy of
every thing for at least ten years before destroying it. I am worried.

The other day we had an hour-long fight. Later, I got to know that she had charged that hour to a client of
hers, in the time sheet. My time was put down as unoccupied.

She says that she loves me and I tell her that I love her too. However, she never believes me. She says that
there is susceptibility of it being a misstatement. Duh! She wants my representation on this!

Last year our house accounts got a qualified opinion I had not kept the supporting etc. of my purchases. Not a long time back my brother’s wedding was to be solemnized. Wedding cards had been sent.

After some time I started receiving a steady trickle of letters. I was puzzled until my wife explained that
external evidence was more reliable. She had called for confirmations from all those to whom cards were
sent.

When she cooks: my wife at times does not go by recipe. Where the recipe says add half-teaspoon
vinegar,one tsp black salt or one teacup of water, she ignores them. She says that they are not material when taken in context of whole meal being prepared.

She is crazy, I tell you. Surprisingly everybody calls her an auditor, instead. I checked the dictionary and
it did not state that auditor is a synonym for crazy. The dictionary must be outdated.

When we got married, she had given me an Engagement Letter and I Had said how cute-how sweet. Now she
gives it to me every year saying that her standards state that it must be sent anew if there is any indication that I have misunderstood the objective and scope of engagement. Huh!

Apart from sending me the engagement letter once again she says I can’t get rid of her just like that. She
says that she has the right of being heard before I appoint some one else.

Phew! For a minute, I thought that we had jeopardized our going concern status. Duh! Dare I say so??

I am told by one of my female colleagues who is married to a CPA that the scenario is even worse when
the guy is a CPA. Apparently he capitalized the wedding expenses as preliminary expenses and is writing it off every year.Also the time he spent dating his wife before marrying her is still under consideration for
valuation…valuation of intangible assets.

So guyz/galz please think twice….should u really marry a CPA? and yes please discount it by the appropriate rate to arrive at the present value of the risk of doing so !!!!!!!

(An Auditee for life)

no updates~~

ya no updates, or maybe i’m lazy to update…i even forgot when is the last time i blogged!! zzz

anyway, been slacking alot in office recently, due to some non-urgent bookings i had in the last month and really nothing much to do or follow up. i guess i sometimes did miss those times when i was really busy and had to OT till midnight everyday. haha i think having things to do in office is still better than slacking and do self-study online. zzz

bah, lazy and no mood to type le… end

thank goodness there is no life expectancy

this is by far, one of the most motivating article which i came across, after Randy Pausch’s video!! seriously made me rethink my objectives priorities in life. living is indeed not about pursuing a career-oriented life, neither is it about making the most money during your lifespan. living, when back to basics, is simply as what the speaker pointed out in the following article.

source: http://mentaltherapy.blogspot.com/

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Life and How to Survive It

I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It’s a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation.

I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.

My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable.
Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who triumphs is always the wife.
And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument.

Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.
The next big milestone in your life is today: your graduation.
The end of education.
You’re done learning.
You’ve probably been told the big lie that “Learning is a lifelong process” and that therefore you will continue studying and taking masters’ degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know the sort of people who tell you that?
Teachers.
Don’t you think there is some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to be repeat customers.

The good news is that they’re wrong.
The bad news is that you don’t need further education because your entire life is over.
It is gone.
That may come as a shock to some of you. You’re in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that you will live to be 70, 80, 90 years old. That is your life expectancy.
I love that term: life expectancy.
We all understand the term to mean the average life span of a group of people. But I’m here to talk about a bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.You may be very happy to know that Singapore is currently ranked as the country with the third highest life expectancy. We are behind Andorra and Japan, and tied with San Marino.
It seems quite clear why people in those countries, and ours, live so long. We share one thing in common: our football teams are all hopeless. There’s very little danger of any of our citizens having their pulses raised by watching us play in the World Cup. Spectators are more likely to be lulled into a gentle and restful nap.
Singaporeans have a life expectancy of 81.8 years. Singapore men live to an average of 79.21 years, while Singapore women live more than five years longer, probably to take into account the additional time they need to spend in the bathroom.So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you’ll have another 40 years to go. Four decades in which to live long and prosper.

Bad news.
Read the papers.
There are people dropping dead when they’re 50, 40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn’t meet their life expectancy.

I’m here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy.After all, it’s calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average.
Revisit those expectations.
You might be looking forward to working, falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste.If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don’t need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.
What you should prepare for is mess.
Life’s a mess.

You are not entitled to expect anything from it. Life is not fair. Everything does not balance out in the end.
Life happens, and you have no control over it.
Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment.
Your degree is a poor armour against fate.Don’t expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live.

Your life is over as of today.

At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets.
It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows.
What does this mean for you?
It is good that your life is over.Since your life is over, you are free.
Let me tell you the many wonderful things that you can do when you are free.
The most important is this: do not work.
Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable.Work kills.

The Japanese have a term “Karoshi”, which means death from overwork. That’s the most dramatic form of how work can kill. But it can also kill you in more subtle ways. If you work, then day by day, bit by bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there’s nothing left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust.There’s a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are “making a living”.

No, they’re not.

They’re dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful.

People will tell you that work ennobles you, that work lends you a certain dignity. Work makes you free. The slogan “Arbeit macht frei” was placed at the entrances to a number of Nazi concentration camps.
Utter nonsense.
Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort.

You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job.
Instead, play.
Find something you enjoy doing.
Do it. Over and over again.

You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often.
Soon, that will have value in itself.

I like arguing, and I love language. So, I became a litigator. I enjoy it and I would do it for free. If I didn’t do that, I would’ve been in some other type of work that still involved writing fiction – probably a sports journalist.

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don’t imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do.
In fact, I’ll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions.
By this time you should know what your obsessions are.
If you enjoy showing off your knowledge and feeling superior, you might become a teacher.
Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working.

Most of you will end up in activities which involve communication.
To those of you I have a second message: be wary of the truth.
I’m not asking you to speak it, or write it, for there are times when it is dangerous or impossible to do those things.
The truth has a great capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating. There is also great skill.

Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence.In order to be wary of the truth, you must first know it. That requires great frankness to yourself. Never fool the person in the mirror.
I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and that you should avoid telling the truth.

I now say this to you: be hated.It’s not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average.
That cannot be your role.
There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.
I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise.
If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation.
That is false.
Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise.
Rejection requires only one reason.
Love requires complete acceptance.
It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.Loving someone has great benefits.
There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human.
Loving is good for the soul.
Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person.

Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming.
It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.
You will find, that when you have someone to love,
that the face is less important than the brain,
and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated.
You are not doing it to be loved back.
Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone.
You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology.
It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don’t work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.
You’re going to have a busy life.

Thank goodness there’s no life expectancy.

quarter of a century~~

and ya… today marks the 25th year which i was born and wow, i feel that im getting old rite now. (and for all those who keep harping on that your age is still smaller than mine, let me tell this, u are just 2-3 years slower than me, and ive already passed this stage of suaning pple older than me and yea… i got my suaning back.. hahaha!) i guess it really doesnt feel good to see ur age getting larger and larger year after year, haha. but something which i realised as i keep seeing all those kids out there growing to their teen/young adult ages and thinking and behaving that they own the world, i just cant help but to laugh. haha and i think all of us who see those kids acting adult and acting that they been thru all kinds of shit really makes us laugh. (pardon me, cos that is from what i observe from my dota games just now.. wahhahaaha) dun care la!

i guess i feel myself changing A LOT (yes, damn alot) over the past year, from lifestyle to behaviour and even to perceptions of things/events. maybe i should thank my sucky results that brought me to thinking that results do, and certainly affects your potential employers’ opinion in choosing you for their company. that is after i saw myself getting rejected, humiliated and discarded after interviews which got me to thinking that my life won’t be the same as my school days, which we always get a second chance, and we always get a chance to start all over again. i just realised that we often, dun even get A SINGLE CHANCE in the first place. well, thats is just the way of life. and me by saying that doesn’t mean i do agree with this statement, but it is just that sometimes, by simply fighting for your chance will get yourselves repelled, trampled, and in the end, discarded. ‘gg’, as quoted by some of my gaming frens (or simply acquaintances). AND SORRY TO SAY, YOU DON’T OWN THE WORLD, THE WORLD OWNS YOU AND THAT IS WHY YOU ARE HERE, DUMBASS! SO QUITE FEELING THAT THE WORLD OWES YOU SOMETHING, BECAUSE YOU ARE THE ONE WHO OWES THE WORLD EVERYTHING!

i do feel myself doing more things than just slacking/wasting my time away compared to the past. maybe thats just becos i did more OT and i have much less time to myself. but one thing that never changed, is that i still keep in contact with my hall friends (yes, friends) regularly. perhaps i did say before that i do want to engage myself in different cliques in different stages of my life, but i guess that doesnt apply after u graduate or at the time u start work, cos i guess new pple in your circle of friends may not last long or even at all. few would be as trustworthy. reliable and honest as whom you have trusted, relied and confessed with over the years. i dunno about other pple, but i think for myself, i do want to meet up with pple i want to meet up regularly and i do try to make an effort to… (haha maybe what i did was to combine different groups and all meet at the same time!) but ya, i did rite? haha… but then again, i do not have the luxury to meet up every single day with anyone, except maybe colleagues. haha cos i see them more than i see my frens. lol, and sometimes i do feel that its a waste of time to build a new friendship from scratch (ya sometimes, although i do feel that its wrong to think that way, but i really felt so at times…)

spending was never what i anticipated myself to be doing from before i started work. and yea, the tendency to overspend for me seems to be an everyday (weekly maybe.. haha) thing. the urge to buy things seem to grow when i see my bank account rising every month. shit. i guess that is really not a good habit to have… but wait, i just bought myself a birthday gift today, and i bought myself a promotion gift last month… OUCH!! but then again, whatever, cos its my money anyway. and sometimes i feel better when im buy things that i like for myself, rather than other pple buying things that i do not like for me, which is why i really do not like pple buying things for me. (maybe an exception for birthdays, wahahahaha)

most pple think that making wishes during birthdays may make them more achievable, but i dun remember any wish that i made that came true. (seriously, i dun remember any other significant one except the one i will mention later…) maybe its just to give yourselves hope of achieving them, or just some wishful thinking on one’s part. (which i think this relates to me better) i did remember those wishes i made to myself last year, which is 1) to find a job; 2) to be happy. i think 1) is perhaps the only realisable wish that i made. but then again, this got me motivated in my work. cos i waited and prepared sooooo damn long for me to get into that company, and even after hearing things like ‘i want to quit!’ starting from my 2nd week in my job from so many pple around me till now, i was determined to stay. this was even though i got totally thrashed by my manager when i totally screwed up one of my assignments in december and working till 2 am for 2/3 of the week for 6 weeks in a row! (maybe this was nothing, as compared some others in another team) well, different kinds of pain i supposed, so quit whining!

i remembered one thing that got me laughing recently, that is when someone asked me suddenly, ‘why u so social?’ wahahaha! cos from what they observe, i seem to able to be okay and comfy with any new clique which i joined… and come to think about it, maybe i am quite sociable afterall. (wahahaha maybe this is one thing which i did want to change!) i did remember that i was quite anti-social last time. i couldn’t just talk to anyone new, and i couldn’t communicate my thoughts at all. i used to think that no one will understand me and no one would really treat me as a good friend, but maybe my army life did change my perspective towards other pple. simply becos i interacted with pple from all walks of life, in a bad sense.

and lastly, thank you whoever who remembered and wished me through phonecall, sms, msn or facebook. for those who remembered and forgot to wished me, thanks also. and for those who dun remembered, well.. its ok, i understand la… and it will be too late to wish me after today. haha

happy birthday to me.

self-belief is from nothing more than a choice~~

Self Belief

Where does self belief come from?

Does it come from applause given by others on your efforts?
Does it come from a pat on the back for something well done?
Does it come from your partner, friend or family member saying you can do anything if you put your mind to it?
Does it come from winning a prize, coming first in some type of competition?

To all of these above, I say NO, NO, NO!!

Self belief comes from within!!!

It comes from knowledge, it comes from abilities, it comes from a knowing and love for
oneself, it comes from acceptance of ones weaknesses and it comes from a WANT!!

We all as human beings have different strengths, different abilities and different passions.

Sporting celebrities believe in themselves, they have pushed themselves to the highest of their abilities. They have taken their strengths and knowledge and worked with them to be the best they can in their particular areas offering competition and a love for what they truly enjoy doing. They believe in their talents and use them fully to their advantage!!

Self belief comes from achievements!

Self belief comes from choice!!

Self belief comes from lack of Fear!!!

Self belief comes from WITHIN. Self Belief comes from using the hard knocks we all get handed out in life to the best of your ability. Turning sadness into happiness, turning a weakness into strength.
Self belief needs to be nurtured, needs to be practiced and needs to come from a place of true honesty and love.

Self belief comes from Learning!!

Believing in YOU can take your life to a completely different level.
Experiencing life, practicing life, brings confidence and confidence brings self belief.

Do you remember the first time you got in a car and wanted to learn to drive…how scary!!
You bunny hopped down the road. You had your driving test…you failed first time around…did you jump back in and try and again…did you go home feeling like a failure!! What choice did you make? How badly did you want to pass your driving test?
You got your license first, second, third time around….how fantastic and on top of the world did you feel…you now have a new control and skill in your life!! How much do you believe in yourself and you abilities right now!

Failure is our best triumph….from our failures in life…we learn…knowledge and experience brings self belief!!

The world is made up of so many unspoken amazing people…and from lack of self belief they sit in the background and watch others reap great rewards from the effort they put into their life and by selling who they are as human beings.

Effort brings self belief!!

Do we ever really realise that we only get one shot of this life we live, and how every time we do something, is so important at the time we do it, is the only TIME we get to visit. That minute, that second, that hour…is the only time we get to do it…then its gone!! We may get to do again…but not in that same time, that same minute, that same second, that same hour!!!! Can you say that when you did it, it was to the best of your ability and that you gave 110% as if not, we have now moved forward to a new time!! What will you do with it??

There are many that will truly say they enjoy what they do with their work but so many that say they are just doing it because they don’t know how to do better, that they fear a change…they live half heartedly through lack of self belief. Through lack of effort.
Some take big jobs because it makes them feel powerful…for eight hours a day they feel great about who they are….what happens to the rest of the day? This is outsourcing self belief!! A fat pay cheque does not bring self belief!!

Theres no right or wrong way to bring yourself to a great self belief of you as a human being in this world!! Some chose to work on themselves, others choose to continue a life living in negatives and instead outsource their self belief. Some truly believe they are complete through what they are doing and through who they are!!! Have they ever tried to see life differently?

Self belief comes from a passion of ones self and ones abilities.

Have you ever pushed yourself so hard you never thought you would make to the finishing line, through work, through sport, through relationships!!!
Have you ever said I give up? What stopped you from going that one step further for you to achieve? Was it lack of self belief?

Ever thought you could run 5kms without stopping….some would laugh, but you CAN!! It comes from self belief! You may not be able to do it on day one, or day two or day three but I know if you kept practicing and believed that you can do it and wanted to do it, it would happen.

Have you ever been overweight and made a choice to do something about it? You try and try but don’t believe you can do it so you stay overweight and it doesn’t happen…
OR
Have you ever been overweight, you make a choice that you no longer want to live overweight, that you don’t feel comfortable being overweight. so you decide to self believe, you put in effort, you try…weight falls off, your confidence skyrockets…you have just achieved and through this achievement you believe in who you are!!! You now self believe!!

Life is about doing…not saying!!!! It’s about not giving up but about working hard at what it is you want to achieve…today, tomorrow…the day after!!!!

How many times over your years have you sat back and said, “ I should have”
The truth is all of us have said this at one point in our life…its how many of us have then just gone and done…instead of living with regret.

Self belief is from nothing more than a CHOICE…choice of how you choose to live your
life !!! Its how you choose to see, how you choose to feel how you choose to BE!!

How many people make excuses for not doing something they truly love doing? If you truly want something…you WILL make it happen!

How many of us become so absorbed into our relationships, into our partners, into our families, into our friends and when it breaks down…we totally have forgotten who WE are!!! Our confidence is gone, our love for ourselves is gone, our self belief is shot down!!

An exercise to try:

Sit down and write about a negative in your life right now. Something that brings anxiety, something that brings sadness, something that is full of fear!!! Do this only if there is something real there…do not manifest or over analyse anything to do this exercise!!
Whether it is something you want to try…an issue that brings upset….a handling of a situation, that’s outcome was not positive…
Today write about it, now go and have your day, then tonight read it, go to bed, sleep, then tomorrow write about again…
Before you write about it again…read it….view it through different eyes…do a “what if I” with yourself…then sit down…and write about how you can change it… and turn it into a positive. Allow yourself to learn from it…come from a place of love when re-writing it!
If by trying to turn it into a positive takes effort, takes rewording, takes understanding or just acceptance…you have just given yourself a chance to see through happier and clearer eyes.
You have just turned a negative into a positive…you have self believed, you have achieved and you have just made a choice, giving yourself a chance, you have learnt and in return you feel more powerful and happier as a human being.

If you still feel anxious, unhappy and fearful…try writing in a more a peaceful place that brings happiness, remove yourself from your environment and take yourself to an environment that you enjoy being in.Whether that is lighting a candle in your bedroom, sitting on the beach, sitting under a tree or just sitting at home, do not give up until you have lifted this weight off your shoulders…you are worth the effort you put in and the happiness and clarity it will bring to your situation.
Now this is a life experience you have just reaped a reward from!!!
Well worth the effort don’t you think??

What is one of your strengths?
Can you use it in every day life?
Can you use today?
Can you use it right now?
Can you use to help others get to a better place in their life?

When you come to your last days on this earth…what will you regret….say, NOTHING now and chose to make choices so that you do not live in regret. Choose to live a truly fulfilled life!!
Theres no second chances to live another life but its never too late today in the life you have been granted, whether your 80, 50, 30, 20 years of age…do it now and reap great benefits for your self esteem and the life you have been given.
Appreciate being alive!!

Give yourself a chance…be true and real, love who you are, make choices, experience and ENJOY LIFE!!
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Marianne Potalej

christian the lion

love knows no limits and true friendship last a lifetime

this video is just so heartwarming… oh my god…

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From The Sunday Times

July 27, 2008

Lion becomes internet sensation

Craze for video of lion reunited with childhood owners

THE heart-tugging video diary of Christian the lion, a big cat who lived in a London antiques shop, has become an internet sensation – 38 years after he was returned to life in the African bush. The home movie has been watched 6m times on YouTube and other sites, rekindling celebrity for two Australians who bought a lion cub from Harrods in 1969 to impress their friends.

The trio became stars in Chelsea, playing football in a park, but Christian grew too big and at 18 months he was moved to the Kenyan wildlife sanctuary featured in the film Born Free.

A year later his former owners, John Rendall and Anthony Bourke, visited the sanctuary, but its founder, George Adamson, warned them to stay away from Christian, who was now in the wild and had his own pride. He said the lion would tear them to pieces.

Instead, as the film shows, Christian rushed towards them, putting his paws on Rendall’s shoulders and licking his face in joy. It is a moment of touching friendship that has reduced millions to tears, say critics, who believe Christian, along with other “positive” video hits such as the dancing man, where a chunky American dances badly across the world, show how the net is becoming more family-friendly.

After the meeting, Christian was never seen again.

theory of insanity

interesting quote which i stole from a friend over from her msn pm… haha, it totally describes the life of a city dweller, or maybe more specifically, my occupation… LOL

Keep doing the same thing over and over again, expect different result – Albert Einstein